I’m here to tell you, no one is coming.

Today’s blog isn’t going to require a lot of effort from me since I’m just going to quote something I heard on my motivational CD on the way to work (I’m telling you, these things are A W E S O M E! If you’re not listening to them yet, you need to start!)

The CD that I am currently listening to (and enjoying thoroughly) is 100 Ways to Create Wealth by Steve Chandler and Sam Beckford. I have had more than one “lightbulb moment” while listening to this audio book. I would say that I have one every time I listen to more of the CD. Here’s what hit me as profound this morning:

“Psychotherapist and author Nathaniel Branden had an ongoing saying and theme he taught his clients to understand. The saying was this: ‘No one is coming.’

How powerful for you if you could just get that concept clearly in your mind and heart. No one is coming. No one is coming to live your life FOR you. No one is coming to solve your personal problems FOR you. No one is coming to attract your wealth FOR you. No matter what you do, life is going to be about what you can do with YOUR life and the wealth that you create.

We’re not saying don’t use coaches and advisors and helpers. Just be aware that when they succeed, they succeed by connecting you to the best parts of yourself. By showing you what’s inside you. It’s back to you. No one is coming to live your life for you.

And no company can do that for you either. No spouse can do it, although people keep changing spouses hoping it will happen if they can just get the right one. A lot of people are disappointed inside of companies because they keep thinking that Microsoft or IBM or Nokia or somebody ‘is going to be the final answer for me; they’re going to provide that missing piece which is my life direction!’.

It’s almost an attempt for people to get childhood reinstated again and find a new form of parent. You can’t blame people for wanting that because they were conditioned throughout childhood to think their parents would take care of them and they’re looking after them so don’t worry about anything. And then BOOM, at 18, it’s like “Whoop! Just kidding! It’s all up to you!” A lot of people feel shocked and betrayed by that and resent it and resist it. Then they go back out looking for new parents, subconsciously, and that’s why they’re bitter about their company experience; why they hate their superiors. You get that “Dilbert-anti-company” effect because it just wasn’t something they had hoped for. A second childhood. ‘Someone’s coming.’

But it’s not bad news that no one is coming. It’s good news because the ultimate source of wealth is in you. You’ll do more to find your wealth by sitting alone in a room all day with just you and a blank pad of paper than you will with 100 interactions with the world outside you. It’s in you. You will end up creating your own wealth in life and you can do it and it’s not even that hard.

Dr. Branden, who you can find at http://www.nathanielbranden.com, tells the story of leading a group therapy session when someone spoke out and said ‘Dr. Branden, you say that no one is coming but that’s not true. You came! You came into our lives and showed us how to live with higher and higher self esteem. And our lives got better and better so don’t say no one is coming, because you came!’

‘It’s true’, said Dr. Branden, ‘I did come. But I came to tell you that no one is coming.’”

Boy, if that doesn’t make you realize that you are the only person in control of your life, I don’t know what will!!


“It all comes down to right now it’s up to us…we gotta show what we’re all about…history will know who we are.” ~ “It’s Now or Never”, High School Musical 3

“It all comes down to right now it’s up to us…we gotta show what we’re all about…history will know who we are.” ~ “It’s Now or Never”, High School Musical 3

Yes, I did it. I just quoted High School Musical 3 in the title of my blog. What can I say? My kids have me hooked on the High School Musical movies! LOL! But there’s more to it than that.

Every day, on my way to work, I listen to a motivational CD. It is always positioned in the first slot of my car’s CD player. The second slot holds, you guessed it, High School Musical 3 (hereafter referred to as HSM3, as the cool kids say). So if my motivational CD ends, HSM3 starts and (for those of you who aren’t familiar with the HSM3 soundtrack) “It’s Now Or Never” is the first song on the CD. It’s an upbeat little ditty about a high school basketball team playing rather poorly in their final game of the season. It’s half time and, you guessed it, “it’s now or never” if they want to win the championship for the 2nd year in a row (can you guess that I’ve seen this movie once or twice????).

I have to be honest, I truly do enjoy the HSM movies and find the soundtracks actually pretty good! But it just seems somewhat ironic that this particular song comes on right after my motivational CD finishes. My motivational CDs usually get me pumped up for the day ahead and hearing this song is like an extra little pep talk every now and then.

“It all comes down to right now it’s up to us…
We gotta show what we’re all about…
History will know who we are.”

What about you? Are you showing what you’re all about? Will history know who you were? It all comes down to right now. It’s up to you.